How to say "STOP! Put this on" I've written this article as for years I had problems stopping the heat of the moment. I didn't want to ruin anything, I also thought it might put him off of me. I now understand (and only recently) just how important those little bits of rubber are. And at the end of the day that's all they are, is just little bits of rubber. It could save your life! It will certainly save you a lot of unpleasant journeys to the doctors. I was recently sexually attacked and needed to go to the doctors and a whole day in a surgery of people poking me with bits of cold steel and needles isn't my idea of fun. There are soo many STD's that you could get, when a little word or two would do the trick. Try out some of the tips below and just remember that if you're not both having fun, you probably shouldn't be doing it all. :) Tantric sex is a lot more uplifting, more loving and much more pleasurable. Not to mention rewarding. *giggle* More on that as I learn it, only just started my own journey into sacred sex, and already I feel higher, and more illuminated. But for now here are some tips to making the process a little easier for you both. The condom Tree: I have a little tree at home which is laden with fruit. Every time I feel the need I send him to the tree of love, hopefully he should pick it up from there, or you can just pluck your own choice and place it in his hand. (Suggested as I can never put the damn things on, my nails are too long. :) Communicate: If you think it just say it. This is the age of passing the responsibility for thoughts, feelings and actions back to the people. he may get upset, but won't you be glad that you found out he had no respect for you early on? But to absolutely honest I haven't had that many blokes come back with a negative reaction. And well I'm responsible enough to deal with it if they do now. It's not me that loosing out only them. :) Try liners like:   * You do have a condom don't you.   * We'll be needing one of these now (producing the condom)   * I'd like to go further with you, are you dressed for the occasion? Remember: It's not worth it, the pleasure you MIGHT (and I say might) receive from one quick spurt isn't worth the risk. Practice hearing yourself: Get used to saying words like "condom" and others that you feel like using, it's up to you what you say, but make sure you do. You have nothing to ashamed of. Below is a list of other web sites which have useful and informative advice on issues like: where to get condoms from, other methods of contraception and chat forums for those who would like to discuss sexual issues. The Site - A good variety of topics, covering STD's, pregnancy, boys issues, girls issues and when you're not sure which sex you are either Ask Beth - You can drop Beth a line with any question or use the links on the right to see what questions other people are asking. ** Safe Sex Condoms - A fun and informative site on different types of condoms, This one gets a special rating in my book. why condoms? - Gives you the low down on the different types for men and women, also information about how to put them on and what it prevents. Consumer Reports Condom Ratings - Very interesting report on all makes of condoms - For the over 18's only I'm afraid. | Email  | Updates  | Vegan  | Photos |